Christian Dating: Frequently Asked Questions

1. Does God want me to find someone? Will I be single for ever?
   God has a plan; the frustrating thing is that He doesn’t share it with us. The one thing we do know is that He wants each of us to find our soulmate. Just as he gave Eve to Adam, God has someone special picked out for you!
2. How do I find love? How do I find my soulmate?
   God says that we should love someone else as we love ourselves. Many relationships fail because the people in them do not love, respect, and appreciate themselves. The first step in finding love is getting to know and respect yourself. Only then is it possible to find your soulmate.
3. What’s the best place to meet Christian singles?
   Church is obviously the first place to look when searching for a soulmate, but it’s definitely not the only place. In fact, if you’re asking the question, then you probably haven’t been meeting the right people at your church. Don’t be afraid to check out singles events and other social activities at other local churches. We also recommend using a reputable Christian online dating service as a way of finding someone who shares your faith and interests. Dr. Craig highly recommends ChristianCafe.com.
4. What does it mean to be equally yoked?
   Many dating services speak of compatibility; the Bible describes this as equally yoked. Just as two oxen that are of equal strength can work together, a couple that is committed to the same values, principles, and life goals are strengthened by each other. If a couple has different aims and goals, i.e. they are unequally yoked, then they’ll be pulling in different directions and will be weakened by the relationship.
5. Is online dating for Christians?
   Absolutely! A Christian online dating service is one of the best ways to find someone that shares your values and interests. In addition to matching people based on compatibility, online dating services are also a great way to meet people outside your immediate community and network of friends. Dating services provide a non-threatening environment, where even shy people feel comfortable making connections. Dr. Craig has reviewed all of the major Christian online dating services and feels confident endorsing ChristianCafe.com.
6. What are some tips for online dating?
   The key to finding someone using a Christian online dating service is to create a great profile that captures who you are and what you are looking for. Remember, Dr. Craig’s first rule of dating is to get to know yourself. Take the time to think about the ideas, things, places, and events that you are most passionate about. Friends can also be a great help in identifying how others see you. Figure out what makes you special and be confident in who you are.
7. What’s a good place for a first date?
   The goal of the first date is to get to know the person well enough to decide if you are interested in seeing him or her again. A casual, public setting where you will be comfortable talking, such as a coffee shop, is the ideal spot. Avoid places that are too private, overly formal, loud, or distracting (such as where you might run into someone that you know). I do not recommend going to a movie, concert, or any type of performance, since these venues do not allow for conversation.
8. What do I say on a first date?
   Let the conversation flow as naturally as when you are talking to a good friend. i.e. Be yourself. Be honest without putting all of your dirty laundry on the table. Resist the urge to list all of what you are looking for in a partner and grilling your date for deal-breakers. Doing so will more than likely overwhelm your date. The goal of the first date should be to determine if you both like each other enough to have a second date.
9. How do I know that the person I am dating is the right one?
   If you find yourself asking this question, then there’s a good chance the person you are with is not the right one. Many marriages fail because someone settles for a partner that doesn’t share the same life goals. Don’t settle for someone just because you don’t want to be single. Hold out until you know in your heart that you have found your life partner. There are many people that you can share things in common with, but very few that you could share your life with.